- That the concepts and philosophies of life of unconditional self-acceptance, other-acceptance, and life-acceptance are effective philosophies of life in achieving mental wellness and mental health.
- That human beings are inherently fallible and imperfect and that they had better accept their and other human being's totality and humanity, while at the same time not like some of their behaviors and characteristics. That they are better off not measuring their entire self or their "being" and give up the narrow, grandiose and ultimately destructive notion to give themselves any global rating or report card. This is partly because all humans are continually evolving and are far too complex to accurately rate; all humans do both self- and social-defeating and self- and social-helping deeds, and have both beneficial and un-beneficial attributes and traits at certain times and in certain conditions. REBT holds that ideas and feelings about self-worth are largely definitional and are not empirically confirmable or falsifiable.
- That people had better accept life with its hassles and difficulties not always in accordance with their wants, while trying to change what they can change and live as elegantly as possible with what they can not change. (Ellis, A. ,2001. Feeling better, getting better, staying better. Impact Publishers)
One woman had the script that she would never get a boyfriend of the right calibre. Because of this she engaged in “people pleasing” behavior where she wasn’t being true to herself whenever she was with someone that she really liked.
Ellis suggested to her that this wouldn’t be sustainable in a long term relationship and she would be better to just behave like herself. In this way she would enjoy her interactions more and she was more likely to find a compatible partner who loved her for herself. Her homework was to go out on a date and to be true to herself and not to worry about the outcome. (Clinical Applications of Rational-Emotive Therapy, Albert Ellis and Michael E Bernard)