- Men will tend to put their pursuit of self-worth and personal power first, intimacy second. It's much more difficult to get a man to put the hands-on care of his family before work at the office that needs to be finished.
- Men tend to relate to others with greater degrees of personal independence than women do. Men tend to expect more independent behavior from children than women do.
- Men tend to search out ways to become wounded, show off their wounds, live by their swords, make games out of giving and getting wounds. They test themselves. They push themselves into physical pain as much as possible, such as playing a sport even when they are injured or avoiding the doctor when they really should go.
- Men do not tend to be as satisfied as their wives often seem to be with making a nest and exploring the relationships within it; they tend to need to leave the nest, even project distant abstract goals through which to experience their own sense of power and worth.
- Men tend to berate each other, cut each other down, negate each other, and generally treat each other in ways women find nasty and mean. Yet the men laugh, jostle, jest, motivate, and seem to feel helped, supported, and loved in the process.
- Men yearn to show bravery and courage, to sacrifice themselves toward the highest possible standards of worth and power, against all odds, seeking the power and status that come from battling the impossible and making it possible. During the Vietnam War, when men sacrificed themselves and lost rather than gained status, they sensed that collective manhood had been betrayed.
Man's abiding happiness is not in getting anything but in giving himself up to what is greater than himself, to ideas which are larger than his individual life, the idea of his country, of humanity, of God.