Friday, March 11, 2011
Reaching Out For Help
Call it harsh reality or call it "the way it is." The way to feel relief is to maneuver the perceived minefield of resistance. Wouldn't it be nice to have solutions dropped at your feet, free for the taking, and requiring nothing other than your meek voice pleading "help." Here's a news flash: Nothing worth beans happens this easily in life. The amount of considerable alleviation is directly proportional to the amount of active, sustained participation taken. That's life. Period.
Sinatra sang it like this:
"I’ve been up and down and over and out
And I know one thing:
Each time I find myself flat on my face,
I pick myself up and get back in the race."
You say, "I'm in debt. My relationship is a bitch. My addiction is out of control." Do you realize that society offers help for most anything that inhibits your choice of seeking a better life? You who suffer must not only seek a solution but also take the necessary actions required by the solution that guarantee success.
The naysayers now react, "This is a lie because without money and special resources, it's useless for me to expect to find help."
Author and motivational speaker Zig Ziglar would disagree. Mr. Ziglar says, "You are the only person on earth who can use your ability." It's such a simple statement loaded with so much "hit me between the eyes" truth. You eventually are responsible for you. Mom and dad, sister and brother, friends and acquaintances, politicians and legislators, puppet masters and charlatans -- no one can totally disengage your human will. When your will is strong, you can navigate the waters leading to the discovery of ability, even if the course is twisted and fraught with danger.
And, the nonbelievers now counter with this widely believed kernel of knowledge: "I have no abilities that anyone is willing to recognize."
Could that, in itself, reveal a certain lack of personal resources? Of course it could. True, an ability can be defined as "a natural gift or natural tendency to do something well." However, an ability is also "an acquired skill or talent" which requires you to be receptive to seeking your own capacity for such acquisition. Most of us have no idea of our inner abilities and our capacity for development. You see, it takes action to prove any degree of skill or talent. Those with the will usually find their initial expectations have been exceeded somewhere in the early actions they took.
Then, the pessimistic choir sings this refrain: "But, it's who you know and not what you know that counts."
Undoubtedly, this thought process is a give up, stop working and accept your status methodology. Moreover, this type of thinking is not only unhealthy, it breeds jealously towards those who are successful. Look at the truth of the matter. People expect you to "bring something to the table." For example, in business unless you can make somebody money, they don't care if you're the son or daughter of royalty.