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Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Expand Your Puckering Portfolio: Artful Summer Kissing

Love's Philosophy
by Percy Bysshe Shelley

The fountains mingle with the river
And the rivers with the ocean,
The winds of Heaven mix for ever
With a sweet emotion;
Nothing in the world is single,
All things by a law divine
In one spirit meet and mingle -
Why not I with thine?

See the mountains kiss high Heaven
And the waves clasp one another;
No sister-flower would be forgiven
If it disdained its brother;
And the sunlight clasps the earth,
And the moonbeams kiss the sea -
What are all these kissings worth
If thou kiss not me?

It's summer and young hearts often turn to love. And, when hearts turn to love, lips naturally turn to kissing. How can anyone be against kissing? This entry may ruffle some feathers while contending  kissing is part of the beauty of the innocence of youth. But, indeed, a kiss is one of the most sacred, tender, and loving acts of human kind.

I can understand a little spark from the fleshy folds that surround the mouth can lead to many other points of sensual contact; however, kissing, in itself, is one of the joys of life for consenting humans, young and old.Nothing makes people happier than sharing a passionate kiss with a loved one. Most of us discover this passion in our adolescence. We are natural lovers who are drawn to kiss.

"The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions -- the little, soon forgotten charities of a kiss or a smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment."

--Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Is teaching an art or a craft? William Cane, the pen name of Michael Christian, is the nation’s (self-described) foremost expert on kissing. Cane, who wrote the book The Art of Kissing, claims kissing is both: (1) an art because the kisser must use creativity, and (2) a craft because a kisser can teach it to others. 

Cane writes of the art and instructs the craft in his work. He wrote the first edition of the book in 1991, revised it in 1995, and revised it again in 2005. And, if you're a visual person, you can find the book on a 90-minute DVD which actually shows you all the kisses.

When asked what stimulated him to write the book, Cane claims an ex-girlfriend once asked him why he kept his eyes open while kissing her. He said he just preferred it, and so, out of his own curiosity, he decided to do some research on the subject.

Cane soon discovered not much had been written about kissing, and he continued to conduct his own studies. He did his research through questionnaires in personal interviews, on the Internet, through the mail, and he also claims he's personally tried all the techniques. By the way, Cane did finally discover one of three people keep their eyes open while kissing.

An international classic (now published in nineteen countries and seventeen languages), The Art of Kissing features Cane sharing his insights, responding to readers' questions, and calming kissing qualms with lots of lip-smacking wisdom. He claims there is really no right or wrong way to kiss -- he says "you just do what feels good and enjoy it every time." But, Cane does believe some great techniques can enhance the art.

Cane is interesting in what types of kisses are people's favorites and what people think about while they are kissing. The author claims his favorite kiss is lip-o-suction with a transformation into the vacuum kiss. I will shed more light upon these techniques later. He concludes a lot of women are thinking, "It's about time he kissed me!" while young people are wondering, "Am I doing this right? (especially for the first kiss)"

"If you can eat spaghetti, you can French kiss."

 --William Cane

Much is written about the romantic French kiss. The term French kiss came into the English language in 1923  It was used as a slur on French culture which was thought to be overly concerned with sex. In France, they call it a "tongue kiss" or a "soul kiss" because if you do it right, it is said to feel as if your soul is emerging.

Cane's book contains a whole section (36 pages) on the French kiss. And, don't worry about just understanding the kiss from the non-revealing exterior view. For those of you who really wish to master the French kiss, the DVD, which contains more than forty minutes of instruction on how to French kiss, takes you right inside the mouth.

Yes, the camera goes inside a mouth so that you can see a perfectly natural french kiss from the inside. When you see it, you'll be right in there too, along with both tongues, and you'll see everything the tongues can do in a 100 percent natural French kiss.

The Boston Globe says this "PG-rated video" was made by a true "kissing scholar."

The DVD teaches french kissing based on responses from more than one hundred thousand people in twenty-three countries and across the United States. You'll see real teens kissing and then they'll talk to you right from the screen, telling you what they wish their partner would do so that you know exactly how you should move your tongue. You can order it in anonymity in a plain box with a 100% money-back guarantee. To order, click:

Some French kissing techniques you'll learn on the DVD:

1. Flicker the tips of your tongues.
2. Rotate tongues in circular motions.
3. Play chase back & forth.
4. Suck your partner's tongue.
5. Gently bite their tongue.

In addition to the extensive French kissing instruction, the book The Art of Kissing includes information on how to kiss with these techniques: lip-o-suction, vacuum kissing, music kissing,  Trobriand Islands kissing, eye kissing, neck kissing, wet kissing, and more. Here is a brief description of a few kisses:


Full of variety and playfulness, lip-o-suction is a kiss in which the guy kisses the upper lip while the girl kisses his lower lip. Then they reverse. This kiss can be given with feather-light action or more intensity. The good thing is that lip-o-suction is perfectly safe. There's no tongue involved, so you can breathe through the entire kiss. Also, your partner doesn't need to know anything about lip-o-suction for you to do this kiss. You simply kiss the upper lip, then the lower lip. If your partner wants to follow your lead and imitate you, that's fine but it's certainly not necessary.

Vacuum Kiss

It is said you can surprise your partner with this kiss because 80 percent of people have never been vacuumed. A vacuum kiss occurs when you suck the air out of your partner's mouth. One caution: better get rid of any chewing gum.

The kiss can be done at any time when you're kissing your partner on the lips. Most often the vacuum kiss happens by accident, but the best kissers always introduce some element of a vacuum kiss into any long make-out session (extended kissing and cuddling). This can be done by gently sucking some air from your partner's mouth. a good seal all around. This makes the vacuum kiss more intense because all the air is sucked into the mouth and none escapes out the sides.

Trobriand Islands Kissing
In this kiss, natives from the South Pacific bite the lower lip, pull their partner's hair, and then nibble off the eyelashes. They usually kiss kneeling or squatting. This sounds pretty aggressive, but more information may lead to some modifications that could prove enjoyable. “In the South Pacific, it’s actually a status symbol to have short eyelashes, because it shows you’re popular,” Cane claimed.

Check out William Cane's "The Art of Kissing Blog":

Some Kissing Trivia For Young Men

"Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply 
not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.

 --Albert Einstein

Guys, artful kissing is free and relatively safe. It is certainly romantic if conducted in the right manner and in the right circumstances. I think you could enjoy learning the craft and practicing your skills this summer, so why not give it a try? Good luck, have fun, and remember, kissing does not mean risking pregnancy with intercourse. Value your innocence. A good kisser will likely develop into a great lover -- Don't rush the serious sexual contact, please.

Did you know according to recent research conducted by a German psychologist, most people (66 percent) turn their head to the right when kissing so that their noses don't bump? Here are a couple more interesting facts to whet your interest:

* Erogenous Female Neck

The neck is a young man's Golden Gate Bridge. Ninety-six percent of women report that a neck kiss is one of their favorite kisses. Only 10 percent of men feel the same way, so this kiss represents a clear gender difference.

Herodotus, the famed Greek historian, tells us that King Alexander the Great, when he was only eighteen years old, used this kissing technique on the neck of the Queen of Persia, who was 29 at the time. The queen had been a widow for three years and had vowed never to marry again. After a few minutes with Alexander and his neck kissing technique, she began to shiver and tremble, and a fine line of sweat formed on her forehead. She vowed to make the boy king hers, she fell so madly in love with his kissing style.

* Too Much Tongue, Too Soon

Keep in mind that the biggest mistake you can make is giving girls French kisses before they want them and giving French kisses that are too invasive. Seventy-five percent of girls complain that they have received tongue kisses that made them choke or gag or made them feel like they were suffocating.

That being said, if you really think the time is right, then simply open your mouth while kissing her and see if she uses her tongue first. If not, give just a little bit of yours and see if she responds with hers. Always keep in mind that less is more.

* Sliding Kisses

How about sliding kisses -- not tongue kisses, but a series of little audible pecks on the bare arm up to the neck to make a girl's knees weak? It may sound silly, but so does blowing in her ear.

"A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech 
when words become superfluous."

--Ingrid Bergman

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